Each person sets himself some goals. If there is a coincidence, you should work on yourself, revise your worldview.
10. The desire to constantly prove their case
If a person is sure that he is always and in everything right, it is difficult to agree with him in the future to cooperate. This behavior is characteristic of children. It changes after the child grows up. But some people live to adulthood, retaining this habit. If a person is constantly trying to prove to others that he is right, then he does not feel that other people love and respect him, he does not have a sense of value for others. Most likely, he does not respect and does not love himself, therefore, he is trying to get these feelings from others, acting as a leader in relations. The need for love and respect cannot be realized through disputes. There are more effective ways. You need to learn to love yourself, to work on the implementation of their goals, to improve their communication skills.
9. Others are to blame for my troubles
There is a type of people that is self-confident and self-centered. They are not ready to answer for their mistakes and constantly shift the responsibility for them to other people. They do not want to realize that they are wrong, otherwise they will have to fight guilty feelings and also take on the solution to the problem. This is a feature of weak and unhappy people who find it easier to make a victim of themselves and shift the solution of problems to other shoulders. A strong man knows how to answer for his actions, is ready to admit his mistakes. It is such people who achieve success in life, because they, working on mistakes, learn to calculate their strengths and gradually comprehend the laws of life.
8. Need to sacrifice yourself
There are people who deny everything to themselves to make children, spouses, and sometimes parents happy. They try to do everything only for the sake of loved ones. But who needs such sacrifices? Man renounces the joys of life. The one for whom all this is done can first accept sacrifice as a given, because too small to understand. But as soon as he realizes that another person is breaking his life for him, he does not feel gratitude or joy, but a huge feeling of guilt, regret. He does not know how to pay now for this sacrifice. And, interestingly, rarely does anyone sacrifice everything selflessly. If the one for whom all this was done cannot evaluate the victim, he becomes an ungrateful villain. And, as a result, relations break down: children abandon their parents, and husbands get divorced.
7. Lie on the little things to create a good impression
Psychologists say that a lie is a defensive reaction. A person does not trust his interlocutor, he is sure that they will not hear, they will not understand, they can painfully punish for the truth. Sometimes we fool each other, because we cannot solve our problems, we want to attract the attention of other people, etc. However, such a lie is easy to expose. And, if the interlocutor’s trust is undermined, it will be difficult to establish strong relations with them. This will affect the self-esteem of the liar, who perfectly understands that his deception was revealed.
6. Touchiness and the habit of complaining
Resentment destroys a person from within, makes him live in constant stress. Offended, we cannot harm another person, but we will easily destroy our soul. Scientists from Stanford University were able to prove that it is precisely because of insults that many diseases appear, including physical ones. They recruited a group of participants, most of whom for a long time could not forgive someone. They helped them deal with previous grievances, after which the participants in the experiment improved their well-being. Many lost back pain, improved sleep, headaches disappeared.
5. The desire to hide their feelings
We all experience a variety of feelings, including anger, and jealousy, and fear. Whether we like it or not, they cannot be turned off. We can only realize them and think about what to do with these feelings. If you suppress your feelings, they do not disappear, but pass into the unconscious. But even it cannot constantly contain our frozen feelings. Self-destruction of a person begins, which can manifest itself through addiction: alcoholism, workaholism, Internet addiction, etc. Or we get sick. Such diseases are called psychosomatic.
4. Life postponed for later
Often we treat our life as a kind of draft, constantly waiting for some significant event. For example, as soon as we can buy an apartment or change jobs, we will finally heal as needed. What is happening at the moment is not important, everything is subject to this global goal. And then, looking back, a person realizes that a huge chunk of his life flew by unnoticed. All this time he infringed himself in everything, did not think about relationships, children, denied himself natural joys. And the years have passed, and they can no longer be returned.
3. Tolerate, afraid to throw out their feelings
Do not take what does not suit you. It's unhealthy. So, if a person goes to an unloved job for a long time, he is very stressed. Australian scientists from National University have proven that this stress causes depression and nervous breakdowns. We suffer human immunity, gastrointestinal diseases may aggravate, heart and back diseases will appear.
2. Spend more than earn
Wastefulness will sooner or later lead to ruin. Not only those who live beyond their means, but also those close to him, who have no chance of living a normal life, suffer. When a person realizes that debts are growing, and there is not enough money, this can push him to commit a crime - fraud or theft, and sometimes even murder. In the end, he will lose his family, because not every spouse is ready to put up with chronic lack of money, and work, because no one will entrust important tasks to a frivolous person.
1. Perfectionism
Psychologists claim that perfectionism is harmful. So, after finishing work, the perfectionist does not feel joy, because the result is far from ideal. Sometimes it’s even difficult for him to get down to business, he is afraid that he will not be able to do everything as it should. Such people are not only self-critical, but also too demanding of others, often irritable, nervous, and also boring and abstruse.