Each parent worries about his child, no matter how old he is, 5 or 20. Only parents can do this, they need to prepare the child for such situations mentally and physically.
If your child is growing up, you should not constantly protect him. Otherwise, it will grow into a weak “greenhouse plant”. It is very difficult for such a person to find his place in life; he will be offended at school and college. At work, he will also be the object of ridicule, a boy or a girl for whipping. You do not want this to happen to your child. Then now take care of his education. And we bring to your attention 10 rules that you need to tell the child so that he can stand up for himself.
10. Be confident in what you do and think.
Only you can influence your child’s self-esteem. Praise him more often, cheer him up, tell him about your love. Appreciate your child, teach him to be responsible for his actions, to properly respond to the opinions of others. Most people attach too much importance to the opinion of others, so it is difficult for them to teach the child to be independent. Start with yourself, remember, your child takes an example from you. Do not criticize or ridicule the child if his opinion is different from yours. Listen to his point of view, treat him as a person. If a child is growing insecure, do not hope that after reaching a certain age, he will believe in himself.
9. Everyone has the right to be heard
Your child should know that he has such a right. Strict parents do not listen to the opinion of the child even in the simplest situations. They decide what color the notebook should be bought, which candies to choose, or what to wear tomorrow at school. And then they never cease to wonder why their child is not listening to anyone. But this is not the worst case scenario. Everything can be much sadder, a child can grow up weak, weak-willed, never learn to defend his point of view. As often as possible, tell the child that his opinion is important to you, and, of course, listen to him.
8. Do not support those who tease
Children are very cruel, often they choose their victim and scoff at her. Explain to the child that this is ugly, teach him not to succumb to herd instinct. Only you can convince your child that Petya wears glasses because he sees poorly, and Katya’s parents have no way to buy her a good phone. You do not need to tease them, they are not to blame for this. If your child has become the object of ridicule, then you will have to try twice. If you bring up the child correctly, he will not care about the opinions of strangers, and your support will give him confidence.
7. No one should violate your rights
First of all, you must instill in your child a sense of self-esteem. Let him understand that he is a person, he has his own rights, no one can violate them. He must not obey the will of others. If someone offends him, uses physical force or exerts psychological pressure, let him fight back. Teach him to assert his rights, but be prepared for the fact that one day he will use this knowledge against you. If you want to grow a self-confident person, respect his rights.
6. Go in for sports
Take your child to some sports section. Of course, consider his interests. The ability to fight will be very useful for later life, so if he wants to go to fight, do not discourage him. Do not be afraid that your boy will be beaten, on the contrary, there he will be given the necessary knowledge. If other sports are closer to him, do not insist, let him do what he likes. Any sports activities will make the child strong and resilient, raise his self-esteem, he will begin to believe in himself. If he doesn’t go to any sections, still introduce him to the sport. In the summer - play football, run, in the winter - ski, skate, play hockey.
5. Be an optimist
It is also important to teach the child to believe in the best. The optimist lives much easier, he does not get hung up on trouble. He can find a common language with others, he has many friends who will always help and support. Set a positive example for the child, do not quarrel over trifles with your husband, do not scold the child, do not make scandals. Treat everything with humor. Looking at you, the child will understand that it is not worthwhile to attach great importance to troubles. Now he will not be very upset because of a quarrel with a classmate, and ridicule from high school students will not cause anything but a smile.
4. Do not be shy to have your point of view
Most young children are afraid to express their opinion in the company, especially if there are a lot of strangers in it. Create various situations in which the child can defend his point of view. Communicate with different people more often, let your child see not only mom and dad, but also your friends, acquaintances, their children. Again, if you are meeting people, you do not need to send the child to the back room so as not to interfere.
3. Don't be afraid to say no
Not every adult can say no. Teach your child to refuse, this will greatly simplify his life. People who do not know how to say “no” will carry out other people's requests and instructions all their lives. You do not want such a fate for your child? Let your child understand that he does not have to agree to all requests and suggestions. He has a choice, he must decide to agree or refuse. Be sure to explain to the child that saying no is not embarrassing. To refuse is normal, especially if another person has to sacrifice his interests to help.
2. The fight is not the best way out
You already understood that you need to teach your child how to protect himself. Now you must explain that it is not necessary to defend your interests with the help of physical strength. Teach him to solve conflicts with words and not get into a fight. Conflicts do not solve with fists. Teach your child the technique of self-control, let him learn to restrain his anger: take a deep breath, count to ten. Again, if the offender allows himself to be superfluous, then the child will have to protect himself. It is better if such an behavior of the enemy is not a surprise to him. The child should know that children sometimes fight.
1. Talk to adults
Perhaps the most important thing you can convey to your child is that he can turn to adults for help at any moment. First of all, to you, parents. You will have to work hard to earn the trust of the child, but it's worth it. You will not have problems in the future, the child will begin to share with you the most intimate, to ask you for advice. Treasure his trust. If a child has told you in secret that his classmate is "bullying", help him with advice, and do not rush headlong to his parents with a demand to flog. So your child will only get worse, now all classmates will call him sneak. Before you do anything, think about how it will affect your child.