Any marriage, even based on great love and mutual understanding, may one day break up. The reason for this may be the ridiculous mistakes made by a man and a woman in a relationship.
We are all human, and it is common for each of us to make mistakes - we are always told this, and this is quite normal, but, unfortunately, in some cases errors can lead to an end to the relationship.
In order to prevent them, and to live happily ever after with their beloved person, it will be useful for every woman to know which mistakes are best avoided. We read and take note of them!
10. Initial erroneous choice
Many women are family-oriented — they want to have children and housekeeping. Therefore, they are not in a thorough search for their soul mate - if they have feelings for a man, then they are in a hurry to connect their lives with him and get married.
Subsequently, it may turn out that the man is completely alien ... In the relationship there is not that understanding, sincere communication that we would like, but the couple already have children in common, loans, etc.
You can always start anew, if you understand that with a person, except for duties, nothing binds you, it is better not to torment yourself and someone who is nearby.
9. Lack of feelings and intimacy
It is important for a man, like a woman, to feel loved, meaningful. Nowhere else can a person receive this, except in his family - from a loved one.
If a man lacks intimacy and your warmth with you, then most likely he will begin to look for it on the side. Most often it happens that a woman wants more emotional closeness, and a man physical.
For everyone to have enough in a relationship, it is very important to listen to each other's wishes, then the marriage will not break up.
8. Desire to change partner
Many marriages break up for the reason that women try to change their partner, do not accept the man as he is. This is a bit strange, because when you fell in love with this person, everything in him suited you, what changed then?
All the same, it will not work to change a person, because people do not change, they can only drown out some features in themselves or, on the contrary, try to please you. But after some time the person will again show all his former qualities.
You have only two choices - either accept the person as he is, or continue to try to “blind” something from the person, thereby gradually leading the marriage to a break.
7. Inability to negotiate finance
Another important factor that often destroys families. It is important to agree on purchases in advance, not to hide expensive items or money bought.
If in your family everyone is responsible for his own budget and pays for himself - you are very lucky, but often a married man and woman have a common budget - this is an indicator of trust and honesty in relation to each other.
In order to avoid cash-related conflicts, it’s best to agree on purchases in advance, rather than secretly take total money. If you want a new dress, why not directly tell your husband about this? Perhaps he will gladly agree, and there will be no conflict.
6. Unrealistic expectations
It happens that women fall in love with those men who cannot satisfy their needs, that is, partners look at life differently.
But at the initial stage of relations, when you feel love, charm from a partner, this is not noticed, but in the future it may leak into reproaches, complaints, etc. A woman tries to change a man, make him do what is beneficial to her.
For example, she expected that he would build a house, but he did not do this for her, because the expectations of the partners did not materialize, the marriage could come to an end. Partners, discovering that they have been deceived, will be disappointed and will go along different life paths.
5. Silence of problems
Excessive salaries for everything, of course, are also bad, but the constant suppression of problems will only lead to the fact that in the future there will be even more of them.
A woman is more emotional than a man, therefore, if she accumulates in her, then at one fine moment she will “pour” all discontent over her spouse, and will do this periodically, because there is no frank dialogue between people.
It cannot be for various reasons: perhaps the spouse leaves the conversation, or the woman does not want to once again touch on topics that are unpleasant for her, hoping that everything will be “solved by itself”. It is important to be able to talk with your partner, and not to hold grudges in yourself.
4. Total control
The mistake of many women is that they devote themselves entirely to a man, forgetting about themselves. Nothing good will definitely come of it - except that the woman forgets about herself, it also makes the man want to step back so that they don't look at him again on the phone or pester him with incriminating questions.
Even though we love someone, this does not mean that we want this person to completely control us. Everyone needs their own personal space, think about it. It is better, on the contrary, to try to make the man himself want to share his feelings, to tell something.
3. Constant criticism of the partner
Criticism is also unpleasant for men, as well as women. Every man wants to be better - his neighbor or colleague. Since childhood, they want to have the best cars, a lot of money and a solid profession, so that his wife and his children are proud of him.
When a woman constantly criticizes and emphasizes the shortcomings of a man, especially in the company of others, it very “hits” his self-esteem, he begins to feel depressed and unable to do anything.
If you think that your husband is doing something wrong, try to gently tell him about it, and do not forget to emphasize his strengths.
2. Intervention by strangers in a couple’s relationship
When a woman begins to live with others, and something does not suit her in a relationship (usually it begins after the stage of falling in love), then she begins to share it with her mother or friends.
Constant "gatherings" in the company of friends and discussion of her husband will lead to the fact that more and more women will be set up against him, and, in the end, she herself will believe that he is bad, worthless, etc.
Automatically for her environment, her husband will be considered a monster, and the frequent intervention of others in their relationship will only exacerbate the problems that exist in the couple.
1. Children above all
Often women, when children are born, forget not only about their spouse, but also about themselves, devoting themselves entirely to children and their upbringing. A woman begins to live only the role of "mother", forgetting that she is also a "wife", and she has a loved one.
It is best when both parents care for their children equally, and not everything falls on the shoulders of one woman. This is also a mistake of men - some of them practically do not participate in the upbringing of their children, but a woman who is engaged in children can simply get very tired, so her only desire would be to get a good night's sleep.
The correct way out of this situation is to share the responsibilities for caring for children with your spouse equally.