Without communication on the Internet, it is difficult to imagine the modern world. People are more likely to prefer instant messaging than a call or a meeting in reality.
But there are different cases - sometimes in a social network we can meet a person who we like and who we want to meet in life. But only if you make mistakes, then the meeting may never take place.
In this article, you will learn about the most common mistakes that many people make in correspondence with a guy or a girl.
10 fatal mistakes in correspondence with a guy or a girl
10. Writing style
The content and style of writing shows how important and interesting a person is to us. If you write plain: "How are you?" to a person whom you met only yesterday, you make grammatical mistakes, even worse - use obscene expressions or allow yourself vulgarity - know that a person will automatically conclude that you are not interested in him, and write just to take your time.
Also, abbreviated, slang words and emoticons are not recommended to be used in correspondence with a person you just met - he will take you for a frivolous and near-minded.
9. Confession in feelings
What would you think if a person with whom you talked a little and never saw each other in life would admit your love? Most likely, you would take him for an irresponsible and frivolous person.
What do people want with their recognition? Most probably naively believe that they will reciprocate, but recognition can only spoil relationships that are gradually emerging.
Of course, it all depends on what kind of person you are talking with ... If he needs love, he may not be against recognition, but a serious person can get scared and disappear.
8. Many posts
Many girls and guys make one total mistake - they bombard with messages of the person they like. Of course, when we like someone, we want to know what happens to this person, whether everything is okay with him, etc., but do not forget - he can have his own affairs, problems, personal life.
When you flood a person with messages, he feels uncomfortable, in addition, he begins to annoy increased attention. Communication should be equal, no need to overdo it.
To make matters worse - some people believe that they have the right to express grievances or put pressure on pity ... you can’t categorically do this, otherwise your communication with a person will soon end.
7. Making discomfort
What is the discomfort? As mentioned above - in a large number of messages, in creating such an atmosphere, as if you are constantly waiting for an answer, in the predictable content of the messages, like: “How are you?”
Do not forget that you are communicating with a person you like ... and if you want to become closer to him, you will have to turn on all your imagination - talk to the person as if you have known each other for a long time and be close to him, mirror his mood (it is felt in messages), show that you are not expecting anything and you have your own life.
You can send a person a photo from the attraction and write, for example: “Today I almost flew away!” A person must understand that you have your own life, and that he has a chance to become part of it. Do not push and do not ask for anything.
6. Use of tips
Sometimes boys and girls resort to the advice of others on how to correspond with a person in order to interest him. You can learn about some common things, but those things that can be applied to one may be a mistake in correspondence with another.
All people are different, and it is a mistake to assume that all girls love the manifestation of care and tenderness. If she is not interested in you, then your caring messages and a good night before bedtime will cause her only discomfort, because she cannot answer in the same way.
It is important to understand what a person with whom you are communicating is - what he loves, appreciates, etc. This will help to avoid mistakes.
5. The desire to please
Some people think that sympathy and interest can be evoked only in one way - talking about their hobbies, careers, successes, etc. ... People begin to boast, paint all their best qualities, only a person is likely to write a couple in response to this “ dry "lines.
The reality is that no one needs your merits and positive qualities except you (maybe even your parents).
Sometimes good guys are surprised: “Why did she choose him, because he is a bully and unemployed ?!” The thing is that this bully is not a bore, he does not write out a list of his merits, but does what he wants in life. He has no rules, and girls feel free and easy with such guys.
Unpredictability is always more interesting. No need to try to please, but rather be interested in a person you like.
4. High significance
If he or she knows that you are constantly sitting at the monitor waiting for an answer - this is very bad. We love attention, but when it is elevated and a person expects something from us, we become uncomfortable and want to stop communicating with the person who is obsessed with us.
Remember what attracts you to the interlocutors? Some understatement, mystery ... You must either appear or disappear. And it’s not necessary to tell everything at every appearance - a couple of interesting sentences and a certain understatement in words will be enough ...
Send a message and forget about it - a person does not have to answer you, you have your own life - do not get hung up on another person. And never think that you do not like - this is the thinking of losers.
3. Always be available.
Can the person you talk to write messages when you like? Sometimes keep quiet, and you are always available and ready to talk? This is a big mistake. No matter how interesting a person you are, you should not show that your interest is greater.
Don’t leave the person if he’s feeling bad and wants to talk it out, but if he decided to talk to you about something just from nothing to do, say: I need to leave. ”
He should know that he is interesting and dear to you, but you are not ready to spend your time on meaningless conversations if only with him, and you also have your own affairs.
2. Answer to silence
If you went to your page on a social network and did not find an answer to your messages, although you see that a person is online, do not rush to write to him. Of course, everyone wants to get an answer from the person they like, but your pursuit and surveillance will only aggravate the situation.
Everyone wants to feel lightness, ease, and if you write: "Why do not you answer me?" "Why are you silent?" “Are you even here?” then a person will not experience anything other than irritation.
Obsession is always angry and makes you want to distance yourself. Better not write anything, wait for an answer. If there is no answer, try writing, but do it later.
1. Inadequate statuses, affectiveness
In a state of passion, a person can do stupid things - many girls write repulsive statuses like: “Not yours - here you are mad,” “I am a woman, which means I am a goddess”, etc. Plus, photos are mixed with this, in which the girl tries to demonstrate her beauty and emphasize what the guy is losing.
Such tricks cause only one thing - never again communicate with a girl. The problem is that a person focuses on his person, while you need to communicate with a person you like, get to know him, be interested, and gradually make it clear that he is truly dear to you.