A person spends most of his life at work. Often, he sees his colleagues more often than relatives or friends.
If there is no mutual understanding in the team, employees quarrel over trifles and are ready to substitute each other at the first opportunity, you can forget about a quiet life.
Any employee (of course, if he does not have a quarrelsome character) runs the risk of bringing himself to a nervous breakdown.
Unfortunately, very often such circumstances arise when people themselves, not wanting to, endanger their relations with the team.
The reason for the tense situation at work can be a carelessly spoken word or an insignificant act.
If you do not want something similar to happen to you, read our article. Below are 10 major mistakes in communicating with colleagues. You will understand how to behave with them and will be able to avoid awkward situations at work.
10. Forget the names
Everyone is pleased to hear their name. Most likely, you, too, have been in a position where you could not remember the name of a person. This can happen to anyone.
This can be forgiven for a beginner, but if you have been working here for a long time, most likely they will look at you as an eccentric.
Have you got a new job? From the first day, try to remember the names of those with whom you have to work, come up with associations or even write them in a notebook.
If you don’t remember the name of your accountant or deskmate, ask someone else whose name you know.
You should not improvise and call a person a different name, in the hope that he will correct you. A colleague is unlikely to like it.
9. Gossiping
If you plan to work long in this team, forget about gossip. You can discuss people, their behavior and appearance with a friend, but in no case with colleagues.
For example, it seemed to you that the boss had unsuccessfully selected the color of the tie, and you decided to discuss this with other employees. There is a big risk that your boss will find out about it. He definitely won't like it.
A colleague can tell everyone that you allow yourself to discuss the look of your superiors. Even if he is not capable of this, others may hear your chatter.
Remember, discussions and condemnations of other company employees are taboo. If someone is behaving inappropriately, this should not bother you. Of course, if you are not a boss, and this is not your subordinate.
8. Do not support neutrality
It often happens that all employees are divided into several warring groups. If you are in a panic rushing between them, thinking which side to choose, do not rush.
It is better to take a neutral position and not take part in this war. Probably, you will also have a hard time, participants in different groups will try to lure you to their side.
In this case, stop any attempts by your colleagues to talk about the situation. Say that you do not have an extra minute, transfer the conversation to another channel.
7. Do not bring colleagues treats
If in your team it is customary to treat, "put down", do not ignore these rules.
It seems that this is a personal matter for everyone. But if you don’t bring small souvenirs from your vacation and don’t buy a cake on your birthday, after a while they will start to look at you askance.
Do not think that your colleagues collect magnets or dream of eating sweets for free. For them, this is a manifestation of attention and goodwill.
Nobody makes you shell out for an expensive treat or gifts, you can choose something more budgetary.
6. Do not support communication with colleagues outside work
Some people clearly distinguish between professional activities and personal life. They try not to communicate with colleagues outside the office. There are even those who ignore the request to friends, pass by in a store or cafe.
Be nice but unobtrusive. If you say hello when meeting outside the office or add your colleague as a friend, nothing bad will happen.
Otherwise, you will give the impression of a proud person who considers communication with other employees of the enterprise below his dignity.
You will be wary. No one wants to communicate with the swami.
5. Behave too intrusive
Do not go to extremes. If you are trying by all means to establish contact and stick to colleagues with conversations, do not hope that you will soon become “your own”.
Take a closer look at people first. Some of them are not averse to chatting on abstract topics, while others find such behavior unprofessional.
Try to keep a low profile, do not impose friendship on everyone. Each person needs to find his own approach.
4. Constantly complain
No one will have a desire to be close to a person who is offended by the whole world. If you are always unhappy with life, do not be surprised that there will be less and less people who want to chat every day.
You can speak unflattering about the employer, scold noisy neighbors, complain about your car and traffic congestion. It seems to you that the discussion of problems brings together. In fact, everyone will begin to avoid talking to you.
Think about it, would you really like to regularly hear complaints and dissatisfied speeches of a colleague? If not, keep your negative emotions to yourself and do not spoil the mood of others.
3. Shock colleagues with the details of their privacy
Sometimes you want to escape from calculations and plans, “cold” calls and customer processing, and then talk about the personal is used. Nobody forbids you to participate in them. On the contrary, they help to get closer.
Do not tell the autobiography in great detail. Lack of money, misunderstanding of the husband, poor behavior of children, quarrels with mother-in-law - all this, of course, is very interesting. It’s just not necessary to inform strangers about this.
Allowed topics are movies, hobbies, travel, fashion. Leave your secrets and conversations about the most secret for friends. Otherwise, you will not only not find a common language with colleagues, but you can become an object of gossip.
2. Fond of flirting
If the organization employs both women and men, there will certainly be a couple of womanizer and fatal beauties seducing everyone in a row. Do not repeat their sad experience.
Greasy jokes, hints, touches can be unpleasant for colleagues. Representatives of the strong half of humanity do not think that little pranks annoy everyone around.
Although the girls are not far behind, they build eyes, demonstrate their charms. Such people are usually not very fond of.
Of course, they will communicate with them, politely smile, but they will perceive a partner-don Juan exclusively as an obstacle, a frivolous person who cannot concentrate on the main thing.
1. Do not increase your effectiveness
To win the respect of colleagues, it’s enough to just do your job well. Do not seek to make friends with everyone around. You came here to build a career, get paid, and not have fun.
If you show good results, you will be appreciated in the team. Envious people may appear, but do not pay attention to them. Adequate co-workers will be happy to support someone who is aimed at fruitful work, makes unique offers, seeks to contribute to the development of the company.
Then you will be appreciated not only by the employees of the organization, but also by the bosses. You will be able to expect a salary increase or career advancement.