According to statistics, 20% of first-graders experience learning difficulties. The most common cause of failure is stunting.
Such children can study in a regular comprehensive school, but they need a corrective approach. They are restless, inattentive, inquisitive. They cannot learn the material, understand it.
The causes of delayed development are divided into several groups. With biological, everything is clear. This is a hereditary predisposition, childhood injuries, past illnesses. No one is safe from this.
There is another group - social reasons. This is a lack of communication, the wrong behavior of parents. They will be discussed in this article.
Below are 10 reasons for the slow development of children, in which the parents are to blame.
10. Too many bans
If parents forbid the child absolutely everything, this will certainly affect his psyche. The child will grow up in a complex, uninitiated.
Parents should understand that prohibitions and restrictions adversely affect the development of personality. The child begins to think that any manifestation of independence or curiosity will not lead to anything good.
When mom or dad once again says “no”, they don’t think that they forbid their child to know the world. If this happens all the time, it is not surprising that a child will have developmental problems. Instead of children's curiosity and curiosity - passivity and indifference to everything.
9. Predict the wishes of children
It is not uncommon for parents to love their child so much that they are ready to predict all his wishes. Then they wonder why people with a high level of education and affluence are born such children.
They do not realize that they themselves are the cause of the slow development of the child. From childhood, he gets used to the fact that he does not need to achieve anything. Parents will buy, get, earn. This is the wrong approach to education.
Let the child understand that he is not the center of the universe. Do not strive to fulfill his every desire. Let him learn to play independently, play as a team, take the initiative, develop his imagination.
Do not overwhelm him with expensive interactive toys, they do not contribute to the development of creative abilities and imagination.
8. Do not give children the right to choose
If a child walks "along the string", it is foolish to hope that he will grow up a confident person. Most likely, he will remain so. He will not be able to prove himself, object, defend his opinion.
Let the baby choose. Otherwise, he will rely on his parents all his life. He will not be able to understand what he wants, in which direction he should move.
What kind of development can we talk about here? Only passivity and lack of initiative are developed, which impede the normal development of the child.
7. Poor child motivation
Lack of motivation is one of the most common reasons why parents turn to child psychologists. There is such a term "shattered motivation." Mom and Dad wanted the best, tried to motivate their child, but made it worse.
Often, parents can not pick up the "key" to the baby shower. In this case, they apply the only method that they know - sanctions. "I will not allow to watch TV, play computer, I will not let go for a walk." Even if this method will produce an effect, then only short-term.
In order to “fix” the child’s motivation, psychologists recommend loosening control, helping the child find an area in which he will be successful.
6. Poor discipline of the child
If a child is allowed from an early age, then it is likely that in the future he will have problems with development. Most parents will not agree with this statement, they simply will not understand what is the connection.
If you do not raise a child, do not maintain discipline, he will grow up rude, irresponsible. Parents should teach the child to control their impulses and motives, to do not what they want, but what they need.
This is not about punishment at all. Set the belt aside. The best method is the consequences of wrong actions. The child must know what this or that behavior will lead to.
5. Continuous monitoring
Many parents are too active in their children's lives. It seems to them that the child will not cope on his own, this is what happens. The child becomes dependent on the parents. He cannot even take a step without them. As a result - problems with learning and perception of information.
He will feel uncomfortable in kindergarten and school. He will experience insecurity, a sense of insecurity and fear. It is difficult for such a child to make contact with peers and teachers. All this will undoubtedly affect its development.
4. Hyperopeca
The same consequences occur if the parents take too much care of the child. He does not have to work, his parents will do everything for him: they will wash, feed, clean up.
The child does not have a desire to serve himself or learn something new. He lives "on the alert."
He simply does not understand why it is necessary to make some efforts, he takes such behavior as a matter of course. The child grows capricious, stubborn, passive, indifferent and indifferent to everything.
3. Isolation of the child
Parents can consciously isolate the child from society. They do not take him out for a walk, the baby does not communicate with his peers, he sees only mom and dad. Of course, there are different situations in life, but adequate mom and dad are unlikely to create such conditions for the child.
Emotional isolation is much more common when a child is seen but not heard. Parents can provide him with proper care, but not show interest in his life.
If a child is deprived of emotional contact at home, he experiences problems in communicating with other children, he is afraid of any manifestations of humanity from adults. Such a child needs the help of specialists, or the situation will worsen even more.
2. Unorganized leisure
Some parents do not see the need for homework with the child. He is left to himself all the time, at that time mom and dad do household chores or solve work issues.
In order not to have development problems, you need to deal with the child. Organizing a child’s leisure time is now very simple. There are a lot of educational materials and manuals in stores, a lot of information on the Internet on the Internet.
It is not necessary to spend a lot of time on classes. Young children are restless and quickly lose interest. The main thing is regularity. Every day, allocate time for the child: read, sculpt, draw, paint, engage in creativity.
1. Ignoring errors
So that the child does not lag behind in development, do not ignore his mistakes. Parents who are afraid to upset their child are afraid to point out to him a mistake.
It is necessary to teach the child to admit his mistakes while he is still very small. Otherwise, the child will be sure that everything is doing right.
Parents should take a closer look at their child. If you repeatedly explained to him what’s what, but he again makes these mistakes, it is better to contact a specialist.
For example, if the child does not pronounce any letters, you do not need to wait and hope that “then it will work out”. It is better to reduce the child to a speech therapist for consultation, as early as possible. This is just an example, situations can be different.